As you may be aware, there are many different styles and designs associated with belly dancing costumes. Interestingly enough, Gypsy designs, as well as several others do not resemble the ones you would associate with a Middle Eastern harem. Aside from culture specific designs, you can also find costumes that reflect social themes, and even time periods. Therefore, it may be easier to find an appropriate costume than you realized.
Consider a situation where you are planning a private celebration for yourself and your romantic partner. If you are making plans that center on a holiday, you may want to wear a belly dancing costume with relevant colors and decorations. Irregardless of your gender, you can easily find costumes that will be suitable for Valentine's day, as well as many other popular holidays. On the other hand, you may also want to use these occasions to wear a costume related to a different time period. This may include an ancient Egyptian theme, or even a futuristic looking costume.
Chances are, some colors match your hair and complexion better than others. In some cases, you may want to select a costume based on which colors are most suitable for you. This will include the colors found in the accent pieces, as well as the basic color of the fabric. You may also want to combine colors in order to create an interesting effect. As an example, if you look good in blue and black, you may want to wear black harem pants combined with a blue belt.
If you are obese, some belly dancing costumes may look more attractive than others. That said, if you are only a few pounds overweight, there is no reason to refuse from wearing a daring costume. This is especially important to consider if you tend to be on the muscular side, or your bone structure is large enough to make the extra weight look attractive. For the most part, you will find that the veils and hip scarves can help accentuate the best parts of your figure. On the other hand, you can just as easily choose to wear looser fitting harem pants.