Most parents do not see how important teaching their kids the value of goal setting is. Well, this might be due to the fact that society sees the act of setting goals an "adult thing".
We used to be kids, so we know best what it feels like when we are asked to do things that for us, only adults enjoy doing. Instead of reading a good book, most kids would prefer running outside and playing under the rain. Combine that with parents who do not care about teaching goal setting skills, children will not realize its importance unsurprisingly.
As parents, it is our responsibility to guide our kids to set goals and show them the importance of achieving them as well. It is not their teachers' responsibility, because their job is to judge kids based on grades and examinations. That is why us, parents play a vital role in our kids goal setting habit. Our kids should not only be book smart, but have well quipped adults in the future as well.
However, we have to remember that our sense of time is different from our kids. We should be very careful at suggesting deadlines and time limits. We may take two weeks as something very quick, but for our 7-year old daughter, it could mean forever. We have to be sensitive to how old our child is when we help them create a time frame.
It will help if we encourage our kids to list down their goals on paper. But writing down goals is not enough, we have to help them realize why such a goal is important and what happens if the goal is achieved.
But despite the most important thing to remember in helping our kids set goals, is to let them think of their goals all by themselves. Yes we can make suggestions, but the idea should come from them first.
When we make the decisions for our kids, we are not teaching them the value of long term goals. However, if you feel that the goal he has for himself is too big for him, you can try suggesting breaking it into mini-goals so that their progress is more visible.
We have to help our kids set and reach their goals. We have to work with them, but we should be careful not to take over. We have to make sure that we do not get too involved in such a way that our child will depend on us on finishing their goals. We can get involved just enough though so that our kids will feel our support and our interest in what they are doing, but we should be careful not to let them think that we will do it for them.